The Oven Gloves Are Off!

The Oven Gloves Are Off.

Fighting talk, I know. You may not be used to this kind of language from a woman, but I’m not pulling any punches!

My honoured coach and mentor, Alex Jeffreys, struck a cord in me recently when he said, “It’s not how big the dog is in the fight – it’s how big the fight is within the dog.”

Now I’m not calling myself any uncharitable names, and I hope you aren’t either. But this really made me think about just how much I really want the things I say I really want, and just how hard I’m willing to fight to get them.

Alex made me think about what I need to do to get myself fit for the supreme contest I am heading for. He made me even more aware of the rigourous training I will need to do: the time I will need to spend researching the greats and the ones who fall short, of the commitment I will need to make to learn,  understand, emulate and master the skills necessary in the achievement of my ultimate goal.

His words challenged me not to fear pitting myself against sparring partners, testing my abilities against theirs. He reconfirmed in me my belief that if I have aligned myself to a wise and seasoned coach who can advise me right, who will push me further, who can encourage and chasten me day by day, week by week, to work harder, faster, sharper, stealthier – one day soon I will be stronger, fitter, better, tougher. One day soon I will be ready.

But I’m not thinking  literally inside the Box[ing Ring] here. Didn’t  I tell you what this fighting allegory is really all about? No? Sorry, I’m new to all this blogging stuff and guess I got a bit carried away.

Well, what I’m actually referring to is my own rags to riches story from the kitchen to the parlour, from the parlour to the palace. I’m talking about fighting my way out of the terraced house and into the beach house. I’m talking about competing to win in the Game of Life. And I’m MAKING IT MY BUSINESS TO WIN.

Yup, I know, it sounds dramatic, melodramatic even - but I’m telling you, I’ve had a revelation.

Internet business is going to work for me. Marketing online is going to make it happen in my life. I’m in training to be a prize fighter. Forget Goggle-Eyed Guru – I’m talking Heavyweight Champion of the Internet World! I’m talking sucker punch to poverty, and uppercut to prosperity. That’s what I’m talking about. And that’s what I’m going to continue talking about in more detail on this blog  telling Janet Chandler’s True Housewife’s Story, here on Jaycee Online!

And you’re welcome to a ringside seat if you want one. I’m in training now for my big day of victory, and I really do mean business this time - online business. You’re even welcome to be one of my sparring partners if you want – if you’re up for it!

But there is a twist to all this, and it’s a painful one. I am struggling with something, I’ve got to admit, and it’s difficult for me to face this in all honesty, but I think it is a very important key to my ultimate success.

In the first warm-up session, Alex made me write out a pledge to myself of things I would do to get myself ship shape, how to prepare myself consistently and tirelessly, mentally and physically to progress steadily toward my big day…my day in the ring, fighting to become a  winner, an overcomer, to take the title and be crowned the next Heavyweight Internet Champion of the World!

Now this pledge I made wasn’t the furniture polish variety which you can just wax on and wax off (older UK housewives know what I’m talking about)- no. This pledge I recently made is not slick, it has been made to stick. I wrote it out and stuck it on the front of my daily journal, and as instructed by my coach, I read it to myself every day before I start to do any work.

And so here’s the thing I’m struggling with, and it is bothering me: I am already a heavyweight – but not in a good way!

I’ve got a good 50-60 pounds to lose, and I don’t mean from buying another use less ful guru magic trick to make fantastic fortunes appear out of thin air -( it’s a fake, it’s not real! Finally, I can see through those squeezepage smokescreens).

Anyway, this one item on my pledge is something I feel I need to go public with if I am going to hold myself accountable and build myself up to really make it happen.

On my pledge I could only bear writing it down like this: “Walk or exercise for at least one hour every day.” But in reality it is should read like this: ”Lose at least one pound every week for at least 60 weeks.” I mean, I’ve never been a Victoria Beckham, but I need to shift some bulk or change my game to Japanese wrestling, and I don’t really want to do that.

So the oven gloves really are off and I’m looking to change my weight divisions in a counter-twist way: I want my online weight to go up and up – from flyweight to Heavywieght, whilst at the same time I want my offline weight to go down and down from overweight to – just right.

Game on.

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20 Responses to "The Oven Gloves Are Off!"

  • 1
    JayceeNo Gravatar says:

    Well, I’ve thrown down the gauntlet to myself, now haven’t I? That aside, you have a ringside seat to my online training – enoucragement from the crowd is welcome!

  • 2
    nickyNo Gravatar says:

    hey janet
    thanks for looking at my blog.. your blogs looking mighty fine..
    your bloody crazy woman you are eh! funny though, your post made me laugh..
    keep that attitude and you’re on to a winner, people will warm to that..
    1 thing im going to do after looking about is break my post up a bit, be more user friendly to read. add more paragraphs and gaps, and some images etc.
    you prob get advised to do that also, i just wanted to behave like an experienced marketer for 5 mins, just to see what it feels like.. ha ha
    be good.. keep in touch
    nick

  • 3
    JayceeNo Gravatar says:

    Nick
    Thanks! I really appreciate your feedback – but no, ‘m not crazy, just like to have a bit of fun!

    Yeah, I’ll definitely keep in touch. Just looking to set up some RSS feeds etc. Know much about that?

    Janet

  • 4

    Hey Janet,

    Looking good with the blog. It all looks tip top and love the optin box with the easy cash webinar graphic.

    I be calling back regularly to see how the fight is going looks like your definitely up for it

    Keep the FOCUS there and everything else will fall into place for us.

    Glyn

  • 5
    davyNo Gravatar says:

    hi janet your blog is great loads of info im only a newbi myself so good look and ill drop back again

    Thanks
    Davy

  • 6
    JayceeNo Gravatar says:

    Hey Glyn

    Thank you for the feedback.

    You are so right about focus – in has been a constraint for me in the past, but I am a Success Story in the Making, so am going to turn focus into a positive trait. for me instead.

    I have set up some posting categories on the blog in advance that are empty just now. I am going to add to each category progressively to show how I make it from flyweight to heavyweight and the time it takes.

    Not sure how I am going to adjudge when I’m ready to go up to the next skill level/weight division, any ideas?

    Perhaps I need to devise some sort of timeline/realistic targets in order to advance from one divisions to the next.

    I’m going to put some more thought into this, I think it will be useful and form part of my one year plan, broken down into 4 x 90-day plans, monthly and weekly plans….somehow!

    So thanks, I will keep the focus and plan for my growth and future glory.

    And I”m sure you’ll be doing the same thing, too, in your own focused way.

    And by the way, what’s your blog link? I’m sure I may have it from your comments post but for ease could you pop a post back here with it?

    Thanks

    Jaycee Online
    Janet

    Cheers

    Janet

  • 7

    Janet,

    Great blog post.

    Your comment, “You are so right about focus – in has been a constraint for me in the past, but I am a Success Story in the Making, so am going to turn focus into a positive trait. for me instead” had some real insight too.

    That’s exactly the kind of thinking that successful people use.
    If we are going to have any chance at REAL success and really reaching our dreams then we really do have to believe that we are a “Success Story in the Making”. Then make it happen.

    Turning your negative qualities into something positive and useful is an AMAZING trait to develop in oneself. I’m taking your advice and writing that down as I type.

    Keep up the great work!

    Peace,
    Darren L Carter
    Darren L Carter´s last blog ..Starting at Zero: Online Business My ComLuv Profile

  • 8
    Anna HallerNo Gravatar
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    Hi Jaycee,

    What an awesome post!! I love the way it reads, it felt like I was reading a book and you’re too funny, I even had a laugh here and there. I also like the fact that you are relating it to fighting because it really is and you have to have the persistence to see it through to the end.

    With your positive outlook on life you will definitely achieve your dreams. If you set goals like you do with your internet marketing business to you wanting to lose weight than you will see results. Take everything one step at a time, stay focused and apply consistent action. Much success to you in your online endeavors as well as your quest to losing weight!

    Anna

    • 8.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar
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      Hi Anna

      You’re too kind, I’m sure! No, seriously, thank you so much for the encouragement, I appreciate it. I’ll go check out your blog in a little while, just making some changes to plugins that are giving me a bit of jip right now, but I will crack it and won’t get bogged down, (or blogged down?)

      Congratulations, you’re my first woman commenter.
      Girl power! Girl power!
      No, I’m not feminist, but I do like it that we women can compete in a man’s world.
      To our success!

      Jaycee

  • 9
    BrandonBurghNo Gravatar says:

    Hey Jaycee,
    I like the online weight going up and physical weight going down idea. I’ve been laid up with a ruptured achilles tendon, and suffice it to say, I’ve added a little to the waste. :)

    Great job on the blog. Keep it going!

    Brandon
    Another MWA 3.0 student
    BrandonBurgh´s last blog ..Warrior’s Stumble – Breaking Through Barriers My ComLuv Profile

    • 9.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar
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      Hi Brandon

      I know what you’re going through! I tore my achilles tendon over twenty years ago and it was a tough time. My Dad was off ill at the time and all we did was watch Daytime TV. We got hooked on the Aussie soaps Neighbours and Home and Away. Can’t remeber eating loads though. What I do remeber is going out to the shops on my crutches and being almost as fast as a bicycle. I used to eat up pavement with my sticks! I actually went back to work on crutches – though I didn’t have to, just because I was bored. I loved to go up and down the stairs to the Underground (subway). Anyway…at least you have your Internet Marketing to keep you busy and looks like you’re doing a good job! Some great content on your site.
      Brandon – why ‘Brandonburgh’? Is it like the gate??

      Stay in touch
      Jaycee

  • 10

    Hi Jaycee,
    your analogies are a great way to keep you focussed, they simplify thinking.
    Great blog, I started with the intrepidity theme, and changed it and changed it again. That featured content gallery is a nightmare too.
    Looking good, keep up the momentum.
    Love & Peace
    Tony
    Anthony Murphy´s last blog ..I’m no expert, but… My ComLuv Profile

    • 10.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar
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      Hi Anthony

      Thanks for the encouragement, analogies are how my brain ticks.

      Glad to hear from someone who knows what I’ve been going through re featured content gallery/intrepidity! I finally had to ask for help on their forum as when I had the gallery up I couldn’t display my ‘about me’page and ‘contents page’. Their helpful reply solved that in a split secone – and now it works!

      Anthony, hope you check back here as I have a question you may be able to help with? Now that I have my own ‘static’ homepage, how do I display another page which includes all my posts? I’ve created the page – just called posts – but how do I get the posts onto it? Any ideas?

      Cheers
      Jaycee

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    PJ BessNo Gravatar says:

    Jaycee,

    Great post! I have always heard it said that you can not conquer what you are not willing to confront. Well, you just confronted a lot of things above. Whether it be weight loss or internet marketing you are already a winner. I believe the transformation has already begun. Much like the process Alex went through to become an online success. We are all going the our own individual processes to confront fears from days past in order to step into a more prosperous future. Much like small changes and consistency over time yield great results. I am confident that you developing a system for success and wealth in every area of life. In fact, it sounds like you are knocking on the door now just about to kick it down.

    All the Best!

    PJ

  • 12

    Hi Jaycee,
    These theme’s drive you up the wall don’t they?!!
    From what I recall when I was using this theme, and I think it applies to most others too, you need to go to your WP Dashboard / My Theme / Settings / and scroll down to ‘Top Navigation’ and make sure your ‘Home’ page is not ‘hidden’, and the page ID is not ‘excluded’ from your top navigation.
    Then if that hasn’t worked make sure your reading settings are OK. WP Dashboard / Settings / Reading / at the top of the page your ‘front page displays’ should be selected as ‘Your Latest Posts’ not a static page. Then tell it the maximum number of posts you want it to show.
    Because of the nature of a blog, as far as I know (and I’ve wrangled with it for a while) you can only display ‘posts’ on the home page. WordPress has evolved to allow different pages and lots of other stuff so you could use it as a full on website or shopping cart if you wanted to, but it is still a blog, so you need to maintain the ‘Home’ page element if you want to use it as such. Disabling the ‘Home’ page is there, so if you wanted to use it as a website you can remove the blogging element.
    When you put stuff into a page other than your home page, you can only edit the page as a whole, you can’t separate individual posts like you would when adding new posts to your home page.
    This puts you into a situation where you need to decide what you want to include as a post on your home page and what you want to set aside for an individual page, bearing in mind of course that you can write a blog post that would highlight something you want to discuss in more detail on a separate page. However to the same end you could just add a tag somewhere in the blog post, and discuss the subject more when the reader clicks on the post title or selects it from the featured content gallery. I would keep additional pages to a minimum if you can, unless you have a definite purpose for each page, like ‘About Me’ for example.
    Sorry I went on a bit there, but I hope it helps. Just send me a message if I can help any more. I think I may be in danger of having just confused the situation.
    Let me know how you get on.
    Love & Peace
    Tony
    Anthony Murphy´s last blog ..I’m no expert, but… My ComLuv Profile

    • 12.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar
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      Hi Anthony
      Thank you for taking time to give such a detailed reply. I have done what you said and removed my ‘welcome page’ from being a static page on my reasding options, so yes, my blog posts now show up first. I still have the welcome page so I guess I’m happier with it this way. The gallery now appears on the blog page which is okay too (though I need to change the gaqllery to look a bit nicer – larger + better pics + better background colour). Nonetheless, your help is greatly appreciated and useful.

      Cheers
      Jaycee

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    Gail FayNo Gravatar says:

    What a coincidence that we chose the same theme! I’m not entirely happy with it but when I tried to change, lots disappeared, so until I can learn more, I’ll have to stick with it. I see you visited my blog today, Thanks for your kind sentiments. I’d be happy to send you my ebook. A few tweaks and it’ll be more presentable. It’s all a matter of time isn’t it? I haven’t even started to generate traffic yet, Tomorrow’s the day.

    I loved your post. Your personality shines through. You’ll go the whole 15 rounds. Good luck to you. Let’s catch up again soon. You’ll be one to watch!
    Gail
    Gail Fay´s last blog ..Make Money Online – Where to Begin My ComLuv Profile

    • 13.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar
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      Gail
      You’re so sweet! And your writing style is absorbing, too.
      I also agree with your sentiments about our wp theme – a bit quirky, I would say. I tried to delete the gallery I put on the front page – and everything went missing! I’m not totally satisfied with a few other things yet, either, but I keep ‘plugin’ away at it, to try to improve it,whilst appreciating that it’s not all about the cosmetic appeal – though that is hugely important online. Some people shoot striaght off if they aren’t impressed by your graphics, fontsize and ease of navigation ; others will stick around cos’, hey, they like the content. People and their foibles…

      Speak soon
      Jaycee

  • 14

    Hey Janet,

    I just absolutely love your blog. Your posts are very insightful, meaningful and entertaining. I’ve worked with a few skillful writers and they don’t hold a pen to you.

    I can’t begin to compliment your blog enough. You are a delightful person with a super spirit. Thank you so much for making my morning.

    I am now compelled to add a new page to my blog, titled “Inspirational Resources”. May I please add you, as a link, onto this new page in my blog? My readers would just love you.

    You are a Blessing,

    Tom
    Tom Alexander´s last blog ..The Use Of Back Links to Boost My Web Traffic And Page Rankings… My ComLuv Profile

    • 14.1
      JayceeNo Gravatar says:

      Hey Tom

      You sure know how to compliment a girl! And it is well received, thank you. I would be most honoured to be a link on your ‘Inspirational Resources’ page and will endeavour to live up to the title.

      It is only recently, since considering how I could start my own home-based business, that I realised that writing online and for other media was something much in demand, and suddenly I remembered just how much I love to write. So late last year I looked into becoming a freelance copywriter, and I was very keen to do some training in that.

      But sadly, somehow, I stumbled upon some Guru glam-mails and instantly I was captivated by their silky talk of ‘Magic Button Marketing,’ and a passionate romance began.

      Three or four months later, heartbroken from broken promises and realising that their love drammatically waned once I had given them what they wanted (oh, how I wish I had learned from my mother not to fall for these Lothario tactics – if only I had waited before…but I had given in, they had used my credit card again and again…I felt so cheap!)

      Anyway, I turned my back on the Gurus and vowed never to fall for any of those pretty boy squeezepages again.

      But then I met Alex…and he seemed different from the rest. He seemed so honest, so transparent, so undemanding. He took time to talk to me – really talk – and slowly a smile came back to my troubled face. A ray of sunshine entered my office and gleamed upon my laptop. Could this be it? Is this what I had been looking for, searching for, hoping for?

      When Alex – Alex Jeffreys is full his name, some of you know him, he’s Welsh, got a lovely accent, I know Mother would like him – when he said he could teach me and others how to have our own internet business, I believed him. And so…here I am! And I’m happy, y’know? And I’m writing again and meeting new friends online and…it’s all good.

      I will close this long reply with a favourite quote of Alex, from one of his online father’s, “When preparation meets opportunity it equals success’.”

      Yours in preparation

      Jaycee Online

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